“Will you try for a girl?”

“Do you think u’ll try for a girl?” is a question I get asked A LOT!

So firstly, I have to ask, how does one “try” for a girl? Is there a secret naked jiggy dance you do to invoke the goddess of girl babies? Secondly, you are assuming I’m not happy with my lil boy gang, which makes me slightly sad because I am totally at one with being a Boy Mum. In fact I’m proud of it.

Us boy mums have our very own unique club. We are like those runners that pass each other on their morning jogs and nod in acknowledgment of each others achievement.

Except when boy mums pass each other we are chasing energetic young men who are usually glued to a Scooter round a park. We are armed with snacks, a spare change of clothes and barely have time for our eye roll alliance as we fly on by.

Boys will wear you down to the ground with their endless lively spirit and thirst for knowledge in the form of constant questioning. They are literally an unstoppable force!

I can often be found in the local park before 10am taking my boys for their first run of the day! (I want to say before 9am but it takes me an hour to get out the door.)

To be fair they don’t even need a Park just a field, a puddle and a few sticks will do for a morning of light entertainment. Boys really do need the chance to run off steam. Plus taking them out somewhere open is also a great opportunity for me to have a very small rest. I just perch myself on a rock and watch as clothes that were clean on this morning become caked in sh*t. Sometimes literally!

You can bet at some point during the trip to see the puddle at the top of the road that one or both boys will announce they are hungry. Boys are HUGE snackers! At this point I can usually smile smugly as I produce a bag of crushed crackers, a floppy looking plastic wrapped croissant or some of the old favourite “ dry cereal bits in a pot” from the bottom of my bag. This is usually the extent of my organisation skills and believe me a well placed pot of dry cereal can do wonders for a hungry boy.

Back in the car I will try come up with a clever way we can all avoid going home. Maybe Great Aunty Elaine is in or my Mum has the day off? Believe me you will not want to spend too much time in the house with boys! They destroy it! Completely destroy it!

Sofas are mountains for them that need to be climbed and cushions get tossed on the floor as they hop from each one avoiding crocodiles jaws. Do girls do this? Cos I have friends that have girls and whenever I visit them their girls are sat lovely playing with actual toys. They are not trying to selatape their baby brother to a wall or using the tie from my dressing gown to pull baby brother along speedboat style in my washing basket.

But it isn’t all rough and tumble, my boys are very loving and kind natured and when they do stop wrestling its to cuddle me or snuggle into me and watch their favourite cartoon whilst demolishing snacks, which conveniently happens to be one of my favourite things to do!

I love being the Queen of the house. I do not have to share my crown (or my make up) with anyone! I am their first love and I know they will look after their Queen.

I wouldn’t change my boys for anything or anyone. I have two happy and healthy babies, who cares whats between their legs!

So if ever you find yourself about to ask “are you going to try for a gir?l” Just remember you literally just asked a stranger if they were going to have sex again soon. Its abit weird, please don’t!


Cheers to being a Boy Mum! Xxx



  1. Louise Pratt April 16, 2018 / 8:15 pm

    This made me laugh – especially the bit about girls playing nicely on the floor.. my eldest boy is charging on and off the sofa constantly and any guests are like 🙈🙈 is he ok, he’s making me nervous?? – he’s a boy it’s just what they do!! Life of a mum with boys!

    • Amumlikeme April 17, 2018 / 7:54 pm

      “is he ok he’s making me nervous?” I was howling at this part of your comment! hahaha! Only a boy mum knows that he in fact quite normal! xx

  2. Kelly Harman April 17, 2018 / 8:50 am

    Again another great post Kathryn. It drives me up the wall when people assume boys are a consolation prize!! I love my boys and it really has made me (a girly girl) a more rounded person! I even pick worms up on sticks now!! Ha ha. Wouldn’t change them for the world!!

    • Amumlikeme April 17, 2018 / 7:52 pm

      Thank you Kelly. 🙂 so glad you like my posts. It makes me mad when they say things about me not having a girl infront of the boys. Least us boy Mums ca stick together! xx

  3. Mandi April 17, 2018 / 4:38 pm

    It does make me laugh ho people always seem to want little girls or expect you to want one – we have a mixture here. Girl, boy, girl……….

  4. Rachelanne_bee April 17, 2018 / 5:18 pm

    Omg yes to all of this. I’m expecting my second boy this summer and so many people have asked if we had hoped for a girl instead! I’m just happy to be having another one that seems to be happy and healthy so far!!

    • Amumlikeme April 17, 2018 / 7:57 pm

      Aww congratulations! Im glad you can relate to this too! x

  5. Anjana April 17, 2018 / 9:25 pm

    I belong to the same club! Queen of the house of boys!! Everything you have written made me smile. This is one great happy post I would like to share away with my boys mommy friends 😀

    • Amumlikeme April 22, 2018 / 6:31 am

      Im so glad you enjoyed this post and can relate. Thank you for sharing it with your mummy friends.x

  6. Lucie from lucielovesit.com April 18, 2018 / 6:25 am

    Your boys are so handsome!! I can already tell you I’m guilty of asking that question before, though it was before I had my daughter and they don’t tell you this stuff if you aren’t in the kid gang.

    Such a lovely post and felt like I was at the park with you guys eating squashed croissant 😀

    Lucie xx

    • Amumlikeme April 22, 2018 / 6:32 am

      Ive asked the question too pre boys :)Thank you for reading and responding i reallt appreciate it. xx

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *